What moments have defined you?

"I was initially drawn to Defined by Moments because of my respect for this author's work—particularly his research on Response Process Validation Protocol and neurophenomenological gamma asymmetry. His scientific contributions have shaped how I think about brain function and clinical application, so I was curious to see how that same mind would translate experience into story. What I found was something much more personal and unexpectedly grounding. What makes this book especially meaningful to me is the way he embodies the role of teacher—not as an authority, but as a co-learner. His curiosity never plateaued. Even as he nears retirement, there is a sense of ongoing inquiry, of continued openness to discovery, which I find both rare and inspiring. Having attended his workshop at an ISNR conference, I had already been struck by the depth and implications of his work. This book adds a new dimension—it reveals the person behind the research. The scientist becomes human, reflective, and deeply aware of the journey that shaped his contributions. This is not just a story about a career. It's a story about becoming—about paying attention to the moments that quietly define us, long before we recognize their significance. I would recommend this book to anyone who values thoughtful reflection, lifelong learning, and the integration of science with lived experience. It is a beautiful, sincere account of a life shaped by curiosity, humility, and purpose."

"My home town - I grew up in the same small town as this author. His memories of life, school and growing up, helped my thoughts come alive. If you grew up in the 50's, 60's or 70's, you will feel at home in this book. We learned lessons that we had no clue would guide us for the rest of our lives. The hard parts taught us the most. So please enjoy this read that takes you from childhood dreams to real life events."

"The power of transparency and redefining the meaning behind our memories - Defined by Moments really moved me. What I appreciate most is the powerful transparency. Ron shares his life in a way that is honest, unfiltered, and deeply human. You can feel that he is not trying to impress anyone. He is simply telling the truth about the moments that shaped him. As I read, I kept thinking about how important it is to look back at our own lives. Not just at what happened, but at the meaning we assigned to those experiences at the time. And then, with maturity and self awareness, to revisit those same moments and ask, What else was there? What was I learning? How did that refine me? Dr. Bonnstetter weaves story and insight together beautifully. It feels natural, not forced. Heartfelt. Sometimes tender. Sometimes surprising. Always real. I especially loved the brain scans at the end. They reinforce something so important: our subconscious patterns are quietly guiding so many of our decisions. When we change the way we think about our experiences, we truly can change our minds and, in many ways, our reality. This is a book about reflection. About growth. About having the courage to examine your own story and find deeper meaning in it. I am grateful Ron wrote it and I hope you find as much insight and joy as I found reading it too!"

"Insightful and caring - I highly recommend this book. Dr. Bonnstetter's ability to communicate and articulate his personal life experiences in such a concise and loving way is inspiring. The format of describing an experience and then examining its effect and influence on his life's journey is not only ingenious but very effective in enabling the reader to gain insight into his or her own experiences. Dr. Bonnstetter's love of teaching, learning and growing is contagious! I really like the book and thank him for writing it."

"What a great book!! - I found this book to be not only highly entertaining but valuable. The author's style is straight forward and very enjoyable reading. The message is important, profound and universal. Reading it provides the opportunity to reflect on one's own life, as promised in the promotional information. Whether you are old and have come to terms with negative thoughts or young and just discovering the impact of those thoughts, the author is speaking to you. People's lives and accomplishments can be amazing. I thank the author for sharing his and helping me understand and appreciate my own life. This is a great book!"

"Inspiring, Revealing, and Memorable - A truly memorable book, filled with ideas about how to look at events in life The author describes vividly and succinctly how coping with an otherwise negative experience led to quite interesting and positive personal outcomes. Reading this, I gained many insights into life. I recommend this fine book to anyone at most any age. I'm getting it for my young granddaughters now!"